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Phuket Killing Highlights Domestic Violence
By Phuketwan Reporter Monday, October 4, 2010
A PHUKET NURSE who allegedly stabbed her husband to death at the weekend is to be given assistance from an organisation that helps to protect women from domestic violence.
The Friend of Woman Foundation is expected to offer counselling and a defence to any charges laid against Ratchada Ratanadilok Na Phuket, 40, a nurse at Bangkok Hospital Phuket in Phuket City.
Police say Khun Ratchada stabbed her husband Natdanai Padungwithi, 45, once in the heart with a fruit knife about 10.30pm on Saturday, then called police and a Bangkok Hospital Phuket ambulance as she cared for him.
Doctors performed surgery at the hospital but were unable to save Khun Natdanai's life. Neighbors around the couple's apartment in Phuket City said that Khun Ratchada was frequently beaten by her drunken husband.
He was shouting as usual on Saturday night and neighbors treated it as nothing out of the ordinary. Khun Ratchada, whose surname indicates that the family has a strong historical connection and is highly respected on Phuket, has been allowed bail.
The killing raises the issue of the increasing levels of domestic violence in Phuket homes.
While there are cases where women batter husbands, wives who are beaten make up the vast proportion of often-unreported cases. Police seldom intervene, unless a crime has been committed.
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Did Khun Ratchada report her husband? This sad story should tell everyone, do not stay with a beating husband. Leave him, or throw him out. Beating will be repeated and there should be zero tolerance.
Very sad if she thought this to be the only solution that can be achieved.
And here Thai society has to ask itself, if they offer proper and sufficient solutions for the weak party to get out of domestic violence.
From my experience, I know Thai police do step up in domestic violence, when reported and lock the beating party up - at least sometimes.
Also I know the case of an ex-husband, who stalked, and he was helped by the police to move on, even so he did not (yet) commit a crime in the narrow sense. Maybe it is not so common for police to do that, but it should be, because it makes life for both parties better in the end.
There should be some angry men counseling, show them ways to convert their negative energy into something useful. Make these weaklings strong and proud again, so they do not have to beat up dogs and women.
And it should be made easier for women to report their husbands. That they don't lose face if they do. Think of the kids out of these relationships. They will copy later and become the next generation of Thai wife beaters, if they do not see that this behavior comes with great costs.
Being stuck in a failed and violent relationship is every second a lose-lose combination for both parts and for the society as a whole. No good will come out of this.
Posted by
Lena
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October 4, 2010 12:44
Lena, not all domestic violence is caused by men, which is something you don't seem to address in your comments.
How many cases in are there in Thailand alone of women emasculating their partners? From reading reports in Thai press, it seems that often this is done as revenge for an infidelity; harsh, no?
Stories such as these are often reported with a vague smirk and not as the severe assault and mutilation that they actually are.
Perhaps there should be "angry women" conselling, too. Or, here's a quantum leap of thought, "angry people" counselling.
I do wish people - my sisters-in-arms mostly, but a fair proportions of overly liberal men - would stop presuming that men are always the guilty party.
It just isn't true, and until society, and us gals in particular, face up to this, there will remain a gender imbalance.
Posted by
Tanya Millibank
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October 4, 2010 16:12
Well yes. The story was about a man, who was beaten up regularly by his drunken wife until he took a knife and killed her. Where you get your presumption I advocate wives always the only victim? Just talking about the vast majority of cases.
But in the end: I could not care less of what you read into my comment, as it was moderated.
Posted by
Lena
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October 5, 2010 04:28
Editor Comment:
Lena, Your comment was edited for fairness. You say you think the man's death was her intention: something that's best left to others to decide. The comment was also edited to correct spelling mistakes and ensure other readers could understand what you were saying. Having made those points, here's your original comment:
Did Khun Ratchade report her husband? This sad story should tell everyone, do not stay with a beating husband. Leave him or throw him out. Beating will be repeated and there should be zero tolerance.
As a nurse with anatomical knowledge, I think she went for it, hoping to end her awful situation forever. Very sad, if she thought, this to be the only solution that can be achieved by her.
And here the Thai society has to ask itself, if they offer proper and sufficient solutions for the weak part to get out of domestic violence unfrightened. Please no business a usual.
From my experience, I know Thai police do step up in domestic violence, when reported and lock the beating part up - at least some time. Also I know the case of an ex-husband, who stalked, and he was helped by the police to move on, even so he did not (yet) commit a crime in the narrow sense. Maybe it is not so common for police to do that, but it should, because it makes the life for both parties in the end better. There should be some angry men counseling, show them ways to convert their negative energy into something useful. Make this weaklings strong and proud again, so they do not have to beat up dogs and women.
And it should be made easier for women to report their husbands. That they don't lose face, if they do. Think of the kids out of this relationships. They will copy later. The next generation of Thai wife beaters, if they do not see, that this behavior comes with great costs.
Being stuck in a failed and turned violence relationship is every second a lose-lose combination for both parts and for the society as a whole. No good will come out of this.
Dear Editor,
as so often you are right. That will be thankfully judged by someone else. And maybe I am wrong and unfair.
But if you delete an (important) sentence out of my comment, please be so kind and put a little "comment moderated" in the end. Thank you. :)
Posted by
Lena
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October 5, 2010 13:40
Editor Comment:
Lena, I think that's the first emoticon we've ever let through.
In the UK, there have recently been some law changes regarding killing abusive partners. You can probably find the article 'Defence law changes for killing after domestic abuse', and there are others.
Posted by
John Crystal
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October 5, 2010 22:42
how about a contact number or address for this shelter so that those in need can get hold of them, or those who know of someone in need can do so on their behalf, if anyone has the number i would appreciate having it as i know of someone in need of help,
Posted by
paul
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November 12, 2012 15:05
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Did Khun Ratchada report her husband? This sad story should tell everyone, do not stay with a beating husband. Leave him, or throw him out. Beating will be repeated and there should be zero tolerance.
Very sad if she thought this to be the only solution that can be achieved.
And here Thai society has to ask itself, if they offer proper and sufficient solutions for the weak party to get out of domestic violence.
From my experience, I know Thai police do step up in domestic violence, when reported and lock the beating party up - at least sometimes.
Also I know the case of an ex-husband, who stalked, and he was helped by the police to move on, even so he did not (yet) commit a crime in the narrow sense. Maybe it is not so common for police to do that, but it should be, because it makes life for both parties better in the end.
There should be some angry men counseling, show them ways to convert their negative energy into something useful. Make these weaklings strong and proud again, so they do not have to beat up dogs and women.
And it should be made easier for women to report their husbands. That they don't lose face if they do. Think of the kids out of these relationships. They will copy later and become the next generation of Thai wife beaters, if they do not see that this behavior comes with great costs.
Being stuck in a failed and violent relationship is every second a lose-lose combination for both parts and for the society as a whole. No good will come out of this.
Posted by Lena on October 4, 2010 12:44